When I read a piece like this one, from New West Network, I’m reminded of all I don’t deal with on a daily basis. I’ve never, and I mean never, received any type of odd or hostile treatment when alone because someone sensed I’m not straight. I’ve been fortunate enough to not have to deal with too much shit when with a partner (there are two extremes for me when with someone I’m dating; I’m either super visible as queer or read as straight), but I’ve spent the a good portion of my life in major queer-friendly cities (New York and San Francisco). I could not tell you what a reaction to me and someone I’d be dating would be in Northern Idaho. I’d actually prefer to not even think about it.

What immediately came to mind when I read Break Out the Bible: This Lesbian Wants Her Driver’s Licence was: Would bible woman be bible woman if it was me at that DMV and I was with a partner who had the same address as me, shared a checking account and checkbook with me AND looked just like me (which would never happen). I really doubt it. Something tells me that we would be “roommates” – even if we had children with us and stood a little too close.