What’s the Real Problem?
Gary Hirte, 19, was sentenced to a mandatory life prison term on Thursday for the murder of Glenn Kopitske, 37. Hirte, who admitted to the murder, claims it was a homosexual encounter with Kopitske that made him kill. Friends of Hirte aren’t buying the reason he killed, but I’m gonna since I have nothing else to go on (and that is why he said he did it).
So… assuming that a 19-year-old boy murdered someone because of the rage he felt from a homosexual encounter with them, shouldn’t we, as a society, examine what messages we are sending out about homosexual activity? Did Hirte kill because he didn’t want to be seen as a “pansy” or a “faggot?” When parents repeatedly tell their sons to act like a real man, do they realize their child might one day end up in prison because he was that affected by their definition of a real man? Is it worth it? I don’t think so. It may be hard at first to question what your beliefs are based on, but it needs to be done before they are forced on to children – for their sake.
I say fear of faggotry. Most guys who worry about being called a pansy have their own issues. The ones that kill think killing a pansy will make their queerness disappear.
You mentioned reconsidering the kinds of messages we send to kids about homosexual activities. That’s undeniably true, though I am also inclined to want to overhaul how we (as parents, friends, partners, coworkers, and more and as a media-ladden culture) convey messages about masculinity to boys and reinscribe gendered notions of identity to men. A “real man”: how many boys have been taught that the notion is synonymous with heterosexuality and with a certain hatred/mockery of femininity?
Great posting, Maria!
Jen