Are We Queer Even Before We Are Sexed?
Do you think you would still hold the same sexual orientation if you were born the opposite sex?
I was having one of those If I could be a man for a day conversations not so long ago, and after wondering How would I get women to sleep with me as a man? for a while I realized the thought wasn’t even so thrilling. I don’t think I’d want to have sex with women as a man. Yea, I’m curious about how it feels on the other side, and given the chance I’d want to find out, but I’d be way more excited to sleep with men as a man. Because, I am beginning to realize, it’s not all about women for me. I don’t love all women. I actually loathe a lot of them. It’s not about women. It’s about sameness. It’s about having an insight into how my lovers feel. It’s about the comfort where we overlap. That wouldn’t exist anymore with women if I was a man. And without it, I not so sure my desire for women would either.
This backs up my straight men are aliens to me thinking perfectly. Gay men, at least, share queerness with me.
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Regards,
Jay