Gay activist Alexei Guren wasn’t sure what to expect when he came out as bisexual.

As a leading member of several gay organizations in Miami, Guren thought his announcement at age 22 in 1984 might spur some skepticism.

“But I didn’t expect the level of anger and suspicion that I had thrown at me,” he said. “Within a very short time, I had been asked to resign from most of the organizations, and lost the majority of my friends.”

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Guren, who is now married and living in Tucson, Ariz., said he was accused of abandoning his gay friends and “seeking heterosexual privilege.”

This article profiled the range of reactions that people have received as a result of coming out as bi. I think what bothers me the most is the reaction that people’s desire *must* conform to a given trajectory and may never change, as if the process of self-discovery were a one-time, static event. Sheesh.